Myth:
Sexual education and good parenting can always protect children against sexual abuse.
Reality:
Even the most attentive and well-meaning parents not always are able to protect their child against sexual abuse. Of course a protective environment, made by knowing what your child does, by knowing the contacts of your child and by educating your child will help. But sometimes, children are abused and the best of parents could not have done anything about it. Perpetrators are excellent manipulators, and they may also have manipulated the parents into believing their child is safe with them. Most children are abused by people the child or parent knows and trusts. Talking with your children about the difference between good touch and bad touch is important. Also making your children aware that rule applies to everyone, even family members, teachers or people who are your friends. It helps to teach that you may remove yourself from uncomfortable situations and that it is okay to tell you about it when anything occurs that feels not good. Asan adult listen then carefully. And even when you have your doubts let it feel that you trust your child. You can learn to recognize behavior symptoms sothat immediately you can get help if abuse occurs. Often parents also feel guilty and may even suffer from secondary post traumatic stress. The guilt and over-protectiveness that often results may negatively effect their child. Its important that parents look for professional help when their child is abused.
